Wedding Bells! We all love it when we get there. Marriages in India are a big deal. Marry or not to Marry is a question we all face atleast once in our life. Something that we all look forward to and want others to look forward to as well. Let’s get to know what a wedding lehenga means.
We specialize in all the categories arranged marriages, love marriages, and elopements. In fact, the generation gap interests two different topics – marriage and sex. There are different types of marriages in Indian states. We’re going to talk Indian wedding facts so hang on to this special article as a must-read and share for others to think about as well.
Arranged Marriage in India
India is a country with a huge population and I love it for the way it is. Marriages are Weddings. Sounds weird but that’s how we do it.
In Arrange Marriages, you get to meet someone usually chosen by your parents or by some other means. The neighbor aunties take up marriage matching as a full-time job and will ask you to create a marriage biodata. Marriage wishes will not be considered in most cases.
If this clicks well you and/or your parents can start planning to spend on the Indian wedding schedule of events. This includes engagement, Roka, wedding, reception, cocktail party, sangeet, Mehendi that is not daler, Tilak, Vidai, etc. with a minimum of one thousand people at every event. Some of these include modern Indian wedding traditions too.
With every Indian wedding ceremony, India’s GDP increases in a single day but it doesn’t show well because most of the money is cash and hence black. Try attending north Indian wedding rituals once in your life to understand what I’m talking about. The marriage invitation card is more expensive than your television and this won’t even last for the wedding anniversary.
This is where they lay a huge emphasis on cultures and customs. Marriage sex life will be the least important consideration but there will be an unwanted emphasis laid on the color and design of the marriage saree. Saree is now one of the weddings dresses the bride will be wearing. Most of these are women wearing heavy gold ornaments which makes them vulnerable to be killed, but it’s all worth it because of its an Indian wedding. The cousins and relatives are worried about their marriage dress because you know it might turn out to be a Miss-India contest.
Now because we were done with the sequels, we added Indian pre-wedding traditions or a prequel like a pre-wedding photo-shoot and an unnecessary show off like pre-baby shower or baby bump shoot, etc. In these marriages, photos play a big role. There is an album for everything, even the wedding saree.
The spending makes a lot of sense because based on how qualified or not so qualified the boy maybe, the girl’s parents not only pay him Dowree which can be anything from A House, Cash/Car or a bike, home essentials to anything else they ask for. Even the wedding dresses for men are sponsored. In most cases, the marriage gift for a couple is considered to be a baby before the first anniversary. Some of those include the
The spending makes a lot of sense because based on how qualified or not so qualified the boy maybe, the girl’s parents not only pay him Dowree which can be anything from A House, Cash/Car or a bike, home essentials to anything else they ask for. Even the wedding dresses for men and the wedding dresses for girls are sponsored. In most cases, the marriage gift for a couple is considered to be a baby before the first anniversary.
They also usually take care of the wedding expenses – and the sequels too. So it’s totally justified. The boys are judged on how “settled” they are. Settled means the amount of money they currently have, and the educational qualifications. The wedding card design is decided by the entire family. In any case, the wedding anniversary wishes will happen in the kid’s presence.
All of the above sounds like a festival and somewhere because of religion playing a big role in all this love marriages in India are opposed. There Percentage of arranged marriages in India 2019 was at 90. Arranged marriages are here to stay. Believe it or not, arranged Marriages are very much successful in India with hardly any data for divorce cases heard of.
Love Marriages in India aka SRK Movie Influenza during the 90s.
The next one on the list is the pleasant one but scary for some. Love marriages. Now I myself am a love marriage guy and will help you decide if you should go for it or not. When you love someone and marry that person, you also marry that family. Although the love marriage statistics do not support this as the best option, it still is.
Nobody tells you this before, so thank me later if you’re still single and prepping. If you have been a fan of the SRK movies and the romantic pop songs that released during the 90s in India if you believe that an emotion called love does exist and can melt hearts and if you believe you are meant to be with that someone special, it will happen. You only know when you have the wedding card in your hands.
It has to be more about meeting the right person and falling in love with them than about getting married. If you’re looking for love marriage benefits, there are many. If none of the above sentences makes sense to you and have made up your mind to get married – search google for a marriage biodata format and go with the arranged marriages in India, but without the Dowree and a crowd of a hundred thousand unknown people at the reception. This is also a part of the Indian marriage culture.
Love can happen only to the ones who believe in it for the rest, careers are important. I’ve met people who say they had to focus on their studies and careers and make it big first so they didn’t have time for love. They are lucky – no time for love. There is no right or wrong in a love marriage essay.
Meeting the right person and spending time with them will only make you more focused in life with regard to what you need to achieve together and the companionship you need. But there is no place for Dowree or one-sided expenses where love exists so beware. Not being mentally ready, going cold feet, immaturity, financial stress, interfaith marriages are the most common reasons why love marriages fail in India.
Elopment – The Fun Way!
Eloping is fun. You run away and get married. Like literally. Gone Overnight! As thrilling as it sounds, there are now laws around it. There could be legal consequences of eloping. The most important law is to make sure the girl is mentally ready. In this case, you always have a fun marriage story to tell.
I have friends and family that chose this option and it made sense too. Is eloping a good idea in India? – depends on the situation and the people involved. If you’re not confident, don’t do it. There is no discussion if eloping good or bad, it is rather an answer to the love marriage vs arrange marriage cricket match. The money spent on wedding suits for men is paid off because of the risk they take.
Elopement stories in India are always fun to hear. Usually, the families on one of the sides have a problem and in most cases, it’s both sides. They are not here for wedding wishes. The silliest reasons range from following different religions, being of a lower caste, money, etc. See, Marriages in India require permissions and families, etc. An elopement doesn’t need any of those. The couple just needs to ensure the marriage registration well in advance. There is no opportunity for marriage advantages and disadvantages.
You can start celebrating because your marriage leave application will have to be approved under these circumstances. Register marriage in India takes not more than 20 minutes and it comes without any noise. If the couple is old enough to marry and smart enough to make a decision, they go for it. In most cases, the celebrations also happen at the marriage bureau and you won’t have a marriage card. The marriage certificate becomes proof.
This is then followed by a ruckus, minor, or major depends on how proactively it is managed by being on the right side of the laws and reaching out to the cops in time. Whoever reaches them first wins. The Eloping couple usually researches and prepares before going ahead with the step and wins most of the time. Elope cases in India have increased over a period of time.
There are different types of Marriages in India as well like without a reception and keeping it short and simple for just the close ones and saving that money for the future – but that must be 1% of those marriages in India. To answer the question, it’s not mandatory or a compulsion to marry. But remember 90% are marriages in India arranged.
The history of marriage in India wasn’t logical but it is today. Luckily child marriages are illegal in India and will always be. There are still some parts of the country that does indulge in this practice to adhere to their customs, but it does not change the law.
People got married for the sake of it. Do not get married just because it’s a trend and everybody does it. Thinking it’s the normal way of living and having kids is how the legacy will follow is what causes the Indian marriage issues. People recently have picked up their own selves to be with and not share their lives with anyone else.
This thought is basically the fear of having their freedom ended or changes they’d have to make to themselves after they’re married. It’s totally OK to be in that place and take your time if you’re not ready. A 2013 IPSOS report suggests 74% of the Indian Youth (18-35 years old) prefer an arranged marriage over love marriage.
Bombay High Court said in one of its hearings that divorces are higher in love marriages as compared to arranged marriages in India. Can we do two marriages in India? I’d suggest do not repeat a mistake since you proved you’re not the right person for it the first time.
Second marriages come with their own set of problems – mental and financial. Settling in all over again with new expectations and commitments. The most common perception is, if you can do it twice you can do it again. Many couples even struggle to have a kid.
Marriage is all about respecting your partner and giving in to their happiness. There is no place for selfishness. If you think you can take care of yourself well and the above definition of marriage doesn’t suit you – give it time.
This remains one of my most favorite marriage quotes – My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me. 🙂 Now I search google for wedding anniversary quotes every year 🙂
Next time you receive a wedding invitation, you know the journey they come from. Do share this link with them and help them make a wise call. And before you make that call to get married, ask yourself this one question – Am I Ready? (For everything I read above) If the answer is yes, PARTTTYYYYY!!!!